Wednesday, January 11, 2006

My Mother, Myself - Oh my!

Yes, it has happened.  I grew up and became my mother.

Not 100% mind you...but in many ways.  In fact, I have a needlepoint pillow on my bed that says 'Mirror Mirror on the wall, I have become my Mother after all'!!!  It is something we all like to joke about in the family.

It could be worse, I think.  My mom is fabulous!  She is strong, smart and wise.  I can actually think of a few things I wish I had inherited of hers that I didn't, and I bet she could do the same!

I know her first pick would be what we affectionately call the "psychotic German cleaning gene".  My mom can clean anything within an inch of its life.  If she doesn't know how to clean it, a way to do so will be found!  And, she will master it completely! 

She also cleans with such a joyful, zest... I really don't get it. 

You see, I hate to clean.  I do what I must, and I do like the house clean and neat, but I hate it.  Maybe it comes from the RA, but I think it was there before then, to be honest. lol

We also differ about shopping.  I love to shop, and a day of wandering around a mall is fun to me.  My mom hates it, and only shops at an actual store when she must.  She prefers catalogs and more recently, the internet. 

I love animals, all kinds, shapes and sizes.  My mother likes cats, and had many as a kid, but just tolerates them now.  She is afraid of most dogs, resulting from a childhood attack, and hates anything in the rodent family with a passion. 

My mom does not like to travel, but that is mostly because she has really bad motion sickness.  She can do cars now, but she needs to medicate on planes, and ships are completely out of the question.  I love to travel, especially historical type sites.  I wish I was able to share that more with mom.

My mom hates anything medical, and would prefer not to know specifics about any procedure, just knock her out and do what you have to do.  I, on the other hand, am very proactive in my healthcare and won't let anyone do anything to me unless I am aware of every detail, and I would prefer to be awake if possible, although I will take some happy pills!  I'm not a martyr, after all.  lol

Moving on to the things we do have in common....

We both definitely have stubborn streaks.  We both insist on having the last word in an arguement.  Yes, that did make for some interesting teen year battles.  Thankfully, I grew up and out of that pretty quickly.

We both love jewelry, coffee, dark chocolate and Mallowmars.  We both hate dirty dishes in front of us in a restaurant, and will automatically pile them in front of our hubbies.  We both hate to go to the gas station and prefer to have our hubbies do it instead!

We both put family first, and love to have family over for holidays.  Christmas is our favorite holiday and we both agree that you cannot have too many Christmas decorations.

We both love to gamble and like roulette the best.  We both love to play computer card games, and online card, puzzle, and word games.  We both like to write poetry, although, my mom has not done any recently.

We both love being a mom and put that first and foremost in our lives.  Now, my mom gets to put being grandma right up at the top, too.  We both mother with all we have and sacrifice for our kids.  My mom still does this for me and my family.  Especially, since the RA, she really does help us out so much.

So, there you have it, me and my mom, two peas in a pod.  The best part is growing up and finding out that your mom can also become a great, wonderful friend, while still being mom.

I hope that my little Pumpkin Muffin will someday feel the same about me.

Be well,
Dawn

13 comments:

gabreaelinfo said...

You could of titled this "I'm A Mini Me."

Gabreael

http://gabreaelsbodymindandspirit.blogspot.com/

jckfrstross said...

yep we all become our moms at one point in life :)

Deb

eml625 said...

Dawn, you have me all choked up ! I lost my mom 5 years ago and I miss her so much. Enjoy every moment with her.
Take Care

Ellen

dizarra said...

YEY FOR MOMS! ~Diane~

cherry2sweet2eat said...

i dont want to ever grow up and be like my mom.

blondepennierae said...

Isn't it great to realize that you and your mom are so much alike.  I love it when I realize I have just done something that my mother would have done.  I really enjoyed this entry.  Pennie

lv2trnscrb said...

what a wonderful tribute to your mom, Dawn. How fortunate for you and your family to have her and your dad live with you for them to share in the daily lives for your family. What a blessing :)

betty

lurkynat said...

Dear Dawn, AWWWW! How sweet!
So different adn yet so much the same! too sweet really!
YOuare lucky taht your mom loves you so much and that you two respect and love each other so much! I am sure Pumpkin will
love,nat

sangrialel said...

It is funny how we "become" our mothers! Lelly

darlenedennis said...

THAKS DAWN THAT WAS A BEAUTIFUL COMPLIMENT. YOU ARE MY BEST FRIEND AND I AM SO HAPPY YOU HAVE GROWN TO BE SO. I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH AND YOU ARE SOOOOOO IMPORTANT IN MY LIFE. YOU HAVE GROWN TO BE A WONDERFUL PERSON THRU AND THRU. LOVE YA ALWAYS YOUR MOMMY.
P.S. I DO WISH YOU HAD INHERITED THE CLEAN GENE A LITTLE MORE BUT I THINK HOPE MAY HAVE GOTTEN IT.

sunnyside46 said...

the best compliment I ever had was when my TEEN said , "I want to be just like you"
I could win a Nobel Prize and not be any prouder!
you gave your mom a great gift with this entry.
Marti

thebaabee said...

Sweetie,
I loved this entry.  It made me think.  This may sound very weird but I am my mother, yet I am her opposite. Hugs, Lu

needlepoint58 said...

I've become my mother ; after awhile I think we all do, like it or not. My sister says I'm even beginning to (shudder) look like her. My kids say I co0ok the same way she did. Thank goodness for my stitching..its the only thing I do she never did.

Cheryl